I'd thought my chastity was just a minor dating roadblock.
But for him, it was nothing less than a deal-breaker.
Assistant editor Katelyn Beaty spoke with Colón, who is associate professor of English at Wheaton College. So we started to look for good advice for older singles, because much discussion about abstinence [is for] high schoolers and college age people.
But once you're out of college, once you are working, there really wasn't much of a discussion.
Editor's Note: In the March/April issue, we featured a special collection of articles on Christian singleness and sexual purity.
Frustrated by several churches where marriage and family life were framed as spiritually optimal, both women turned to each other and to other singles for constructive ways to interpret their singleness beyond, "Just hold on, he [or she] will come along soon." Thankfully, the book borne of Colón and Field's experience does more than vent.
Try to put it out of my mind a thousand times a day? There are thousands of believers who struggle in this area. Sex was His idea in the first place, and He calls what He created "good." He gave us marriage so that we would have the freedom to enjoy and celebrate our sexuality in the most healthy and satisfying way. Or those who have married, only to lose our spouse to death or divorce?
How can I have a relationship with God if He makes impossible demands of me and threatens me with judgment if I fail? What about married couples who are separated for long periods of time or whose physical intimacy is ended by the illness or incapacity of one partner?
(Brazos) looks at common assumptions about marriage in popular culture and the church, critiquing the latter from taking too many cues from the former.
Drawing on biblical motifs and the church fathers, Colón and Field envision singleness as a witness to radical dependence on God — and to his expansive love for those outside the church. As we went on with our lives and earned degrees, we had long conversations about our frustrations of being single in the evangelical church.