While it’s normal to seek solace, companionship, and a sexual relationship after a breakup, it’s crucial to take it slow so you can assess whether this relationship is casual or might be permanent.
The number-one thing to keep in mind when deciding when to introduce a new partner to your kids is timing after your divorce. Even if both of you are in love and seem to have a lot in common, breakups are common and kids get caught in the crossfire.
When deciding the “if, how, and when” of introducing a new partner to your child, first consider the adjustment period they’ve been in since the divorce. Your child could need a period of at least 6 months -1 year for healthy adjustment.
Renowned researcher Constance Ahrons, who conducted a 20-year study of children of divorce, concluded that most children find their parent’s courtship behaviors confusing and strange.
I find that younger children tend to be more welcoming of their parents dating, while older children and teens may express a lot of anger. Let them move at their own pace so they can come around to acceptance without feeling forced.
If the first meeting is hard, encourage them to try again another day (it only gets easier with time).
One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?
My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.